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120 | How To Chase After Your Calling (Not To Be Confused With Your Purpose)

Key Takeaways:
🔥 1. Your Purpose Is Fixed — Your Calling Is Flexible
Let’s settle this first.
The Bible is clear about your purpose:📖 “Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” — 1 Corinthians 10:31
Your purpose is to glorify God.That never changes—no matter your season, job, or title.
Your calling, however, is:
The skills you use
The problems you solve
The people you serve
The assignments God entrusts to you over time
Truth punch:You don’t need to “find” your purpose.You need to express it through obedience.
Calling answers how.Purpose answers why.
🧠 2. Why Calling Feels So Confusing for Introverted Women
Identity moment—this matters.
Introverts tend to:
Overthink decisions
Internalize pressure
Delay action until things feel “right”
So instead of chasing calling, you analyze it.
You ask:
“What if I choose wrong?”
“What if this isn’t what God wants?”
“What if I miss it?”
Sharp insight:Calling is rarely revealed through contemplation.It’s revealed through participation.
📖 Psalm 119:105 — “Your word is a lamp to my feet, not a floodlight to the future.”
God gives light for the next step, not the whole staircase.
🛑 3. You’re Not Waiting on God — You’re Waiting on Certainty
This is where many believers get stuck.
You say:
“I’m praying about it.”
But what you really mean is:
“I don’t want to move unless I can’t fail.”
Truth punch:Faith doesn’t eliminate risk—it responds to God despite it.
Biblical calling always required movement:
Abraham left before knowing the destination
Peter stepped out before the water felt solid
Esther spoke up before safety was guaranteed
📖 Hebrews 11:8 — “By faith Abraham obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.”
🧰 4. Your Skills Are Not Random — They Are the Vehicle
Here’s where many Christian women minimize themselves.
You think:
“It’s just something I’m good at”
“Other people can do this better”
“This doesn’t feel spiritual enough”
But Scripture says otherwise.
📖 Romans 12:6 — “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.”
Your calling is not separate from your skills.It flows through them.
Calling = the means by which you glorify God.
Teaching. Writing. Coaching. Organizing. Creating. Leading. Building.
God doesn’t waste gifts.He deploys them.
🌱 5. Calling Is Chased Through Faithful Action, Not Perfection
Calling isn’t a destination you arrive at.It’s a direction you commit to.
You don’t chase your calling by:
Waiting until you feel ready
Having all the answers
Eliminating fear
You chase it by:
Saying yes to what’s in front of you
Being faithful with what you already have
Adjusting as God redirects
📖 Proverbs 16:9 — “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”
Movement invites refinement.
Let’s Take Action:
📝 Step 1: Separate Purpose from CallingWrite this down:
My purpose: To glorify God
My current calling may look like: (list skills, opportunities, burdens)
This removes pressure immediately.
🧠 Step 2: Inventory Your SkillsAsk:
What do people already come to me for?
What feels natural but impactful?
What problems do I feel responsible to help solve?
Those are clues—not coincidences.
🚶 Step 3: Take One Obedient StepNot the whole plan.Not the forever decision.
Just:
One post
One conversation
One offer
One act of service
Clarity follows obedience.

119 | When Discernment Feels Broken — How to Trust God Again After Being Hurt

Key Talking Points:
💔 1. Pain Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Discern — It Means You’re Guarded
Let’s get this straight first:
You’re not spiritually broken.You’re not “bad at hearing God.”You’re wounded.
When you’ve been hurt before:
Your nervous system learns to brace
Your mind looks for threats
Your heart hesitates before trusting again
That’s not rebellion.That’s self-protection.
Truth punch:If discernment feels foggy, it’s often because fear is trying to keep you safe—not because God stopped speaking.
Biblical truth:📖 Psalm 34:18 — “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”God does not withdraw from wounded people. He draws nearer.
🧠 2. Trauma Trains You to Second-Guess God’s Voice
This is subtle but powerful.
After hurt, your inner dialogue sounds like:
“What if I heard wrong?”
“What if I trust again and get hurt again?”
“What if I mess everything up?”
So instead of discerning, you hesitate.Instead of listening, you analyze.Instead of moving, you wait for certainty.
Sharp insight:Fear after pain doesn’t scream. It whispers doubt in a calm, logical tone.
But discernment isn’t certainty—it’s trust in motion.
Biblical truth:📖 Isaiah 30:21 — “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, you will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’”God’s guidance is often directional, not detailed.
🪞 3. Why Introverted Women Struggle Here the Most
This is the identity moment.
Introverts already live internally.After pain, that internal world becomes even louder.
You replay:
What you missed
What you ignored
What you wish you’d done differently
So now you think:
“I can’t trust myself.”
Truth:Your reflection is a strength—but when mixed with hurt, it can turn into self-distrust.
God never asked you to trust yourself.He asked you to trust Him—even when your discernment is being rebuilt.
Biblical truth:📖 Proverbs 3:5 — “Lean not on your own understanding.”That includes the understanding shaped by pain.
🛑 4. Discernment Isn’t About Avoiding Pain — It’s About Obedience in Spite of It
Here’s a hard but freeing truth:
Good discernment does not guarantee painless outcomes.
Sometimes:
You discern correctly and it still hurts
You obey God and it still costs you
You follow His lead and people fail you
That doesn’t mean you missed God.
Truth punch:Pain is not proof you discerned wrong.
God never promised safety.He promised presence.
Biblical truth:📖 John 16:33 — “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
🧭 5. Healing Comes Before Clarity
If you’re asking God for direction but ignoring your wounds, clarity will feel distant.
Sometimes the prayer isn’t:
“God, what should I do?”
It’s:
“God, help me trust You again.”
Discernment flows best through a softened heart, not a defended one.
Biblical truth:📖 Ezekiel 36:26 — “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.”God restores sensitivity before direction.
Let’s Take Action:
📝 Step 1: Name the WoundAsk yourself:
Where did I trust God and feel hurt afterward?
What did I learn to fear from that experience?
Be honest. God can handle it.
🙏 Step 2: Separate God from the OutcomeWrite this down:
“Just because it hurt doesn’t mean God wasn’t there.”
Release the belief that pain equals failure.
🧠 Step 3: Ask for Restoration, Not Just DirectionPray:
“God, heal my ability to trust You—not just my ability to decide.”
🚶 Step 4: Practice Discernment in Small, Safe StepsYou don’t need a big leap.Start with:
One small obedience
One clear boundary
One faithful action
Confidence returns through movement.

Repost | Can You Love Jesus, Make Money, and Not Be Fake

Key Takeaways:
✝️ 1. Yes, You Can Love Jesus and Make Money
Jesus talked about money—a lot. Not to condemn it, but to redeem our relationship with it.
Deuteronomy 8:18 – “It is God who gives you the ability to produce wealth.”
Money isn’t the enemy—idolatry is. Your business is a tool, not your identity.
💰 2. You’re Not “Less Holy” for Wanting to Earn
God wired you with gifts to create, solve problems, and generate income.
Making money in your business allows you to be generous, present with your family, and focused on your mission.
You can honor God in the way you earn, not just in what you give.
😬 3. How to Make Sales Without Being Fake
Drop the script. No need for hype or manipulation.
Speak from experience, from truth, and from service.
Show up consistently and let your character market for you.
Proverbs 11:1 – “The Lord detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find favor with Him.”
🌿 4. Business as Ministry (Yes, Really)
Every offer, post, email, or podcast is a chance to reflect God’s heart.
You don’t need a pulpit—you need to show up in obedience.
You can build a brand that’s bold, biblical, and believable without watering down your values.
🙌 Let’s Take Action:
Commit Your Work to GodStart your week by reading Proverbs especially Proverbs 16:3 and asking Him to bless your hands and heart.
Check Your HeartAsk: Am I afraid of making money because I think it’s ungodly—or because I’m afraid of what people will think?
Reframe Your Sales MessageInstead of “buy this,” try:“Here’s how I can help you solve this problem, and why I believe it matters.”

118 | Still Not Getting Clients? Diagnose the Real Problem Before You Quit

Key Takeaways
🔥 1. Stop Assuming You’re the Problem — Diagnose the System
Most women jump straight to:
“I’m not cut out for this”
“Maybe I heard God wrong”
“Other people are just better at this”
But business works on cause and effect.
If clients aren’t coming, ask:
Is the problem visibility?
Clarity?
Trust?
Offer?
Invitation?
Feelings don’t fix funnels.Diagnosis does.
Biblical Truth:📖 Proverbs 4:7 — “Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”Understanding comes before breakthrough.
🔥 2. Diagnose the Real Reason Clients Aren’t Saying Yes
Let’s get specific. One of these is almost always the issue:
❌ Problem #1: People Don’t Know What You Do
If someone can’t explain your offer in one sentence, they won’t buy.
Too vague
Too many ideas
Too spiritual, not practical
Clarity creates confidence.
❌ Problem #2: You’re Educating but Not Inviting
Posting tips ≠ making offers.
If you’re never clearly saying:
“Here’s how I can help”
“Here’s the next step”
“Here’s how to work with me”
People assume you’re not open for business.
❌ Problem #3: Your Offer Is Unclear or Too Big
New businesses often sell:
outcomes that feel unrealistic
offers that feel overwhelming
packages without a clear win
People buy clear transformations, not potential.
❌ Problem #4: There’s No Trust Bridge
If you don’t share:
stories
results
personal conviction
why you care
People don’t feel safe buying — even if they like you.
Biblical Truth:📖 Romans 10:14 — “How can they believe if they have not heard?”Silence doesn’t create faith. Clarity does.
🔥 3. Why Introverts Get Stuck Here
Identity Moment:Introverts often assume:“If my work is good enough, people will just find me.”
But business doesn’t reward quiet excellence — it rewards clear communication.
You don’t need to be louder.You need to be more direct.
Biblical Truth:📖 Matthew 5:14 — “A city on a hill cannot be hidden.”Visibility is stewardship, not vanity.
🔥 4. God Isn’t Testing You — He’s Teaching You
A slow season doesn’t mean:
you failed
God changed His mind
you missed your moment
It often means God is refining:
your message
your offer
your leadership
your courage
Delay is not denial — but it is instruction.
Biblical Truth:📖 James 1:5 — “If any of you lacks wisdom, ask God…”Wisdom helps you adjust — not quit.
Let’s Take Action
📝 1. Do a Client Clarity Audit
Answer honestly:
Can someone clearly describe what I sell?
Is my offer easy to understand?
Have I invited people to work with me this week?
If the answer is no — start there.
🔍 2. Identify the ONE Missing Piece
Choose the most likely gap:
clarity
offer
trust
invitation
consistency
Don’t fix everything. Fix one thing.
🗣️ 3. Make One Clear Invitation This Week
Examples:
“Here’s how I help…”
“If you want support with ___, this is for you.”
“DM me if you want help with ___.”
Clarity builds confidence — for you and them.
🙏 4. Pray This Prayer
“God, show me what needs adjustment — not what needs abandonment.Give me wisdom to see clearly and courage to respond.”
🌿 5. Declare This Truth
“I don’t need to quit. I need clarity and courage.”

117 | God Didn't Call You To Be Safe

Key Takeaways:
🔥 1. Clarity Isn’t the Problem — Courage Is
Most people who say “I’m still praying about it” already know the answer.
You felt the conviction.You recognized the nudge.You knew the next step.
But obedience would require:
disappointing someone
risking failure
being seen
letting go of safety
So instead, we spiritualize hesitation.
Truth punch:If God had not spoken, there would be confusion.But when God speaks, resistance usually feels like “waiting.”
Biblical truth:📖 John 10:27 — “My sheep hear my voice… and they follow me.”Hearing is not the issue. Following is.
🔥 2. When Discernment Becomes a Delay Tactic
Discernment is meant to protect obedience — not postpone it.
But many believers use:
“I just want peace first”
“I’m waiting for confirmation”
“I don’t want to rush God”
…as a way to avoid movement.
Here’s the hard truth:God rarely gives comfort before obedience.Peace usually follows obedience — it doesn’t precede it.
Sharp insight:If you need more confirmation than obedience requires, you may be seeking reassurance, not God.
Biblical truth:📖 James 1:22 — “Do not merely listen to the word… do what it says.”
🔥 3. Obedience Will Cost You Something — That’s the Point
God’s instructions often confront:
people-pleasing
perfectionism
fear of being misunderstood
desire for control
If obedience doesn’t cost you anything, it’s probably convenience — not calling.
Delay feels safer because it keeps you:
responsible but not accountable
spiritual but unchanged
informed but uncommitted
Truth punch:Delayed obedience doesn’t feel rebellious — it feels reasonable.But heaven still calls it disobedience.
Biblical truth:📖 Luke 9:23 — “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves…”
🔥 4. You Don’t Need Another Answer — You Need Alignment
God is not obligated to keep repeating Himself.
At some point:
prayer becomes negotiation
journaling becomes justification
waiting becomes hiding
And clarity turns into clutter.
This is the identity moment (especially for introverts):Introverted women often delay because they want to be certain before being visible — but God builds confidence after obedience, not before.
Biblical truth:📖 Proverbs 3:5–6 — “Trust in the Lord… do not lean on your own understanding.”
🙌 Let’s Take Action:
This episode is incomplete without movement.
1️⃣ Name the Answer You’ve Been Avoiding
Ask yourself honestly:“What did God already tell me — that I’ve been hoping He’d change?”
Write it down. No editing. No softening.
2️⃣ Identify the Real Resistance
Finish this sentence:“I haven’t obeyed because I’m afraid of __________.”
Fear loses power when it’s named.
3️⃣ Take the Smallest Step of Obedience
Not the whole plan.Not the final outcome.
Just the next faithful step:
send the email
make the decision
set the boundary
launch imperfectly
say yes (or no)
God doesn’t bless intentions.He blesses obedience.
4️⃣ Declare This Out Loud
“I don’t need more answers. I need more obedience.”
Say it until it stops stinging.
 

116 | God Already Answered You — You Just Don’t Like the Answer

Key Takeaways:
🔥 1. Clarity Isn’t the Problem — Courage Is
Most people who say “I’m still praying about it” already know the answer.
You felt the conviction.You recognized the nudge.You knew the next step.
But obedience would require:
disappointing someone
risking failure
being seen
letting go of safety
So instead, we spiritualize hesitation.
Biblical truth:📖 John 10:27 — “My sheep hear my voice… and they follow me.”Hearing is not the issue. Following is.
🔥 2. When Discernment Becomes a Delay Tactic
Discernment is meant to protect obedience — not postpone it.
But many believers use:
“I just want peace first”
“I’m waiting for confirmation”
“I don’t want to rush God”
…as a way to avoid movement.
Here’s the hard truth:God rarely gives comfort before obedience.Peace usually follows obedience — it doesn’t precede it.
Biblical truth:📖 James 1:22 — “Do not merely listen to the word… do what it says.”
🔥 3. Obedience Will Cost You Something — That’s the Point
God’s instructions often confront:
people-pleasing
perfectionism
fear of being misunderstood
desire for control
If obedience doesn’t cost you anything, it’s probably convenience — not calling.
Delay feels safer because it keeps you:
responsible but not accountable
spiritual but unchanged
informed but uncommitted
Biblical truth:📖 Luke 9:23 — “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves…”
🔥 4. You Don’t Need Another Answer — You Need Alignment
God is not obligated to keep repeating Himself.
At some point:
prayer becomes negotiation
journaling becomes justification
waiting becomes hiding
And clarity turns into clutter.
This is the identity moment (especially for introverts):Introverted women often delay because they want to be certain before being visible — but God builds confidence after obedience, not before.
Biblical truth:📖 Proverbs 3:5–6 — “Trust in the Lord… do not lean on your own understanding.”
🙌 Let’s Take Action:
This episode is incomplete without movement.
1️⃣ Name the Answer You’ve Been Avoiding
Ask yourself honestly:“What did God already tell me — that I’ve been hoping He’d change?”
Write it down. No editing. No softening.
2️⃣ Identify the Real Resistance
Finish this sentence:“I haven’t obeyed because I’m afraid of __________.”
Fear loses power when it’s named.
3️⃣ Take the Smallest Step of Obedience
Not the whole plan.Not the final outcome.
Just the next faithful step:
send the email
make the decision
set the boundary
launch imperfectly
say yes (or no)
God doesn’t bless intentions.He blesses obedience.
4️⃣ Declare This Out Loud
“I don’t need more answers. I need more obedience.”

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Key Takeaways:
Going Live
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Setting Up Funnels
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Getting Referrals
Referrals are a goldmine for rapid sales. Uncover effective strategies for generating referrals organically. Whether it's incentivizing existing customers or implementing referral programs, we explore tactics that can multiply your reach and accelerate your sales.
Follow-ups
The fortune is in the follow-up. Delve into the importance of timely and strategic follow-ups.
Sales Calls
Mastering the art of sales calls is essential. Learn how to structure compelling sales calls that address customer pain points, build trust, and ultimately close deals.
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115 | Stop Asking for a Sign — What Did God Already Say?

Key Takeaways
🔥 1. Jesus Was Clear: Sign-Seeking Is a Faith Issue
When religious leaders demanded a sign, Jesus didn’t comply — He rebuked them.
They weren’t confused.They were unwilling.
They wanted proof without obedience.
Biblical Truth:Matthew 16:1–4 — “A wicked and adulterous generation seeks after a sign…”Luke 11:29 — “This generation is an evil generation; it seeks a sign…”
Jesus didn’t condemn curiosity — He confronted resistance disguised as spirituality.
🔥 2. Signs Are Often Requested When We Don’t Like the Answer
Let’s be honest — most of us don’t ask for signs because we’re lost.
We ask because:
the step feels scary
obedience costs something
the outcome isn’t guaranteed
we might look foolish
we fear failing
Asking for a sign becomes a way to delay discomfort.
Biblical Truth:James 1:6–8 — “The one who doubts is like a wave of the sea…”Double-mindedness keeps us spiritually stalled.
🔥 3. God Has Already Spoken More Than We Acknowledge
Before asking God to speak again, ask:
Have I read what He already said?
Have I obeyed what I already know?
Have I stewarded the clarity I already received?
God often waits for obedience before giving further instruction.
Biblical Truth:Psalm 119:105 — “Your word is a lamp to my feet…”A lamp shows the next step — not the entire staircase.
🔥 4. But What About Gideon? (Context Matters)
Yes — Gideon asked for signs.
But here’s what we forget:
God had already spoken clearly to Gideon (Judges 6:14)
Gideon wasn’t rebellious — he was insecure
God accommodated Gideon’s weakness — He didn’t prescribe it
God met Gideon in his fear — but He didn’t design sign-seeking as the model for faith.
Gideon’s story shows God’s mercy — not our permission to delay obedience indefinitely.
Biblical Truth:Judges 6:14 — “The Lord turned to him and said, ‘Go in the strength you have.’”God didn’t say “Wait for more proof.”He said go.
🔥 5. God’s Silence Is Not Confusion — It’s an Invitation to Trust
Sometimes God is quiet because:
He already spoke
He’s watching for obedience
He’s strengthening your discernment
He’s teaching you to walk by faith, not feeling
Silence doesn’t mean absence.
Biblical Truth:2 Corinthians 5:7 — “For we walk by faith, not by sight.”Faith matures when we stop demanding guarantees.
🔥 6. Trusting God Often Looks Like Moving Without a Sign
Biblical obedience often happened before clarity:
Abraham left before knowing the destination
Peter stepped out of the boat before certainty
Esther acted without assurance of survival
God honors movement rooted in trust.
Biblical Truth:Hebrews 11:8 — “By faith Abraham obeyed and went…”Faith moves first — understanding follows.
Let’s Take Action
📝 1. Identify Where You’re Waiting for a Sign
Write down:
the decision you’ve been delaying
the step you know you’re supposed to take
the fear attached to it
Clarity begins with honesty.
🧠 2. Ask This Better Question
Instead of:“God, give me a sign.”
Ask:“God, what have You already said about this?”
Then revisit Scripture, prayer, and past convictions.
🛤️ 3. Take the Next Obvious Step
Not the whole plan.Not the final outcome.
Just the next faithful step you already know.
God reveals more in motion.
🙏 4. Pray This Prayer
“Lord, forgive me for delaying obedience in the name of wisdom.Help me trust Your voice, Your Word, and the clarity You’ve already given me.”
📖 5. Scriptures to Meditate On This Week
Matthew 16:1–4
Luke 11:29–32
Judges 6
🌿 6. Declare This Truth
“I don’t need another sign. I need deeper trust.”
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114 | No More New Year’s Resolutions - What You Actually Need Instead

Key Takeaways
🔥 1. Resolutions Focus on Willpower — God Focuses on Stewardship
Resolutions usually sound like:
“I’ll try harder.”
“I’ll be more disciplined.”
“This year will be different.”
But willpower fades. Motivation lies.God never asked you to white-knuckle your way into obedience.
He asks you to manage what you’ve been given.
Time.Energy.Money.Gifts.Capacity.
When you ignore stewardship, you end up frustrated and blaming yourself — or worse, blaming God.
Biblical Truth:Luke 16:10 — “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much.”God doesn’t increase what we ignore. He multiplies what we manage.
🔥 2. You Cannot Pray Yourself Out of What You Won’t Manage
This is the belief no one wants to say out loud:
“If I just pray more, things will magically fix themselves.”
Prayer is powerful — but prayer without responsibility becomes avoidance.
You can’t pray your way out of:
poor boundaries
no systems
inconsistent effort
unclear priorities
unmanaged time
God answers prayers — but He also expects participation.
Biblical Truth:James 2:17 — “Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.”Prayer is not a substitute for action. It’s fuel for it.
🔥 3. Why Resolutions Fail Introverts (and Quiet Thinkers)
Here’s the identity moment most introverted women don’t realize:
👉 Introverts struggle with follow-through not because they’re lazy — but because they overthink instead of structure.
You think deeply.You reflect often.You see multiple possibilities.
But without systems, your mind becomes a trap instead of a tool.
Resolutions demand hype and emotional momentum.Introverts need rhythms, clarity, and realistic plans.
Biblical Truth:1 Corinthians 14:40 — “Let all things be done decently and in order.”Order isn’t restrictive — it’s freeing.
🔥 4. The Hidden Damage of ‘Starting Over Every January’
Every time you make a resolution and drop it, something subtle happens:
Your confidence erodes
You stop trusting yourself
You assume something is “wrong” with you
That shame keeps you stuck.
God is not asking you to reinvent yourself every year.He’s asking you to build faithfully on what already exists.
Biblical Truth:Zechariah 4:10 — “Do not despise these small beginnings.”Progress compounds when you stop resetting and start refining.
🔥 5. What You Actually Need Instead of a Resolution
Not hype.Not pressure.Not a 20-goal checklist.
You need:
Clarity (What matters in this season?)
Boundaries (What must be protected?)
Systems (What supports consistency?)
Stewardship (What am I responsible for?)
This is how faith becomes sustainable.
Biblical Truth:Proverbs 16:3 — “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”Commitment comes before clarity — but management keeps it alive.
Let’s Take Action📝 1. Do a Life + Business Inventory
Ask yourself:
What am I currently responsible for?
What am I neglecting?
What feels chaotic because it’s unmanaged?
Write it down. No shame — just honesty.
🧭 2. Choose ONE Focus for the Next 90 Days
Not 10. Not 5.One area:
health
finances
business
spiritual rhythms
boundaries
Growth comes from focus, not frenzy.
⏰ 3. Create One Simple System
Examples:
A daily 30-minute business block
A weekly planning check-in
A boundary around phone usage
A consistent prayer + reflection time
Systems beat motivation every time.
🙏 4. Pray This Prayer
“Lord, show me what You’ve entrusted to me — and help me manage it with wisdom, not guilt.Teach me to partner with You through obedience, not avoidance.”
🌿 5. Declare This Truth
“I don’t need a resolution. I need wisdom, structure, and faith-filled action.”
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113 | The Hidden Damage of Shrinking Yourself (And What It Means for the New Year)

🔥 1. Shrinking Often Disguises Itself as “Being Wise”
You tell yourself:
“I’m just being patient.”
“I’m still learning.”
“I’ll start when I’m more confident.”
“I don’t want to rush God.”
But wisdom doesn’t produce paralysis. And preparation that never leads to action is not obedience — it’s avoidance.
Biblical Truth: Ecclesiastes 11:4 — “Whoever watches the wind will not plant.” Waiting for perfect conditions keeps seeds in your hand instead of in the ground.
🔥 2. The Emotional Cost of Shrinking Yourself
Shrinking doesn’t make you peaceful — it makes you resentful.
Hidden effects include:
quiet frustration
low-grade anxiety
comparison
self-doubt
feeling behind
questioning your purpose
Your soul knows when it’s meant for more — even if your fear argues otherwise.
Biblical Truth: Jeremiah 20:9 — “His word is in my heart like a fire… I am weary of holding it in.” What God places inside you will eventually demand expression.
🔥 3. Shrinking Is Not the Same as Surrender
Surrender says: “God, I’ll do it Your way.” Shrinking says: “God, I’ll do it if it feels safe.”
One leads to growth. The other leads to stagnation.
God never asked you to erase yourself — He asked you to deny sin, not identity.
Biblical Truth: Galatians 1:10 — “If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” People-pleasing and purpose rarely coexist.
🔥 4. What Shrinking Looks Like in the New Year
As the year resets, shrinking sounds like:
“This year I’ll just observe.”
“I’ll wait and see what happens.”
“Others are already doing it better.”
“Maybe next season.”
But the new year doesn’t require a new personality — it requires new obedience.
Biblical Truth: Isaiah 43:19 — “See, I am doing a new thing!” God’s new thing often requires you to show up differently than before.
🔥 5. Stewardship Requires Visibility
You can’t steward what you refuse to use.
Your voice. Your ideas. Your leadership. Your business. Your influence.
Buried gifts don’t multiply.
Biblical Truth: Matthew 25:25–26 — The servant who hid his talent wasn’t praised for being careful — he was corrected for being fearful.
Key Takeaways
Shrinking feels safe but produces stagnation
Humility and invisibility are not the same
God doesn’t prepare you just to keep you hidden
Your frustration may be a signal, not a flaw
Obedience often feels uncomfortable before it feels peaceful
Introverts don’t need to be louder — they need to be braver
The new year isn’t about doing more — it’s about showing up
Let’s Take Action
📝 1. Name Where You’ve Been Shrinking
Write down:
One area of your life you’ve been holding back
One idea you’ve delayed
One gift you’ve minimized
Clarity breaks fear.
🗣️ 2. Replace the Shrinking Script
Old thought: “I’m not ready.”
New truth: “God wouldn’t nudge me if I wasn’t capable.”
Say it daily.
📅 3. Choose One Brave Step for the New Year
Not ten. Not five. One.
Examples:
Post the thing
Launch the offer
Raise your price
Start before you feel confident
Tell someone what you really want
Momentum starts small.
📖 4. Pray This Prayer
“God, show me where I’ve been hiding out of fear instead of trusting You. Give me courage to steward what You’ve placed in my hands — especially when it stretches me.”
🌿 5. Declare This Truth
“I am not behind. I am not invisible. I am not too much. I am being prepared — and I am willing to step forward.”
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